a thousand words
September 19th, 2010 § Leave a Comment
sometimes the hard decisions are the easiest to make
August 4th, 2010 § Leave a Comment

I am a fancily guarded person. Which means I have the ability to look intriguing from afar but up close, my need to be liked works against me. My overwhelming desire to be your friend, shrouded by my, “I hope she likes me” inner voice, makes me come off as distant. I’m too busy worrying about what I look like to you up close, if my breath smells like coffee or if I look too fat in my outfit to be deemed “friend worthy.” To add to that trouble, my relaxed face is a bitch face. I discovered this early on, after it became clear that my face is a magnet for drunk men from all over, to approach me in bars with an alcohol-stenched whispery voice and say things like, “Smile…it can’t be that bad.” So there you have it, I am a stink faced insecure person with an ego the size of one of those jawbreakers you begged your parents to buy you at the arcade, even though, “you couldn’t possibly ever eat that entire thing, it is as big as your head!”
But even with this working against me, I managed to acquire some pretty amazing friends, and soon, they will do me the honor of spending far too much money on a dress they will never wear again, and will be my bridetourage (because who wants to be called a maid). Where some brides obsess over who to have in the wedding, my decision was easy, partially because I worked full-time during my 7 year commuter-campus college career, so I didn’t have 12 girls from the sorority, who lived off lettuce and salsa to sift through, but mostly because, like I said earlier, I am fancily guarded. I choose relationships carefully believing it more important to have a few close friends, than to be a “Tom on Facebook”. The friendship I have with my 4 bridesmaids has been cultivated over many years, through experiences as simple as trips to Starbucks before work, to more complicated experiences like, sleeping together on hard wood floors in sleeping bags, when I was going through a painful breakup. My friends have held my hair and they’ve held my hand. They’ve moved away and back and then away again. They’ve put up with my OCD and my sarcasm and understand that sometimes I come off as sharp but never mean to be. They’ve talked me through breakups, they’ve watched me fall in and out of love. They’ve believed in me, even when they didn’t understand me, and they have been there when I needed them. And because I am getting married in my thirties, I’ve watched some of them become wives….and mothers. But most importantly, I know we are on this journey together, that no matter the miles that separate us today or tomorrow…we will pick up right where we left off because they will always be like home to me.
Pimp Your Cupcake Party
March 2nd, 2010 § Leave a Comment
In the spirit of being a highly obsessive and annoying pre-planner, I’ve drafted the list for my bachelorette party and have most of that weekend planned. Which is good, because I only have 7 months before it’s here. I mention this because in completing this exercise, I realized one thing I hadn’t before, I know a lot of girls, and to make it even better I know a large handful of brilliant, beautiful and amazing girls and I am lucky to call them friends. So, I figured since I had a contact list together, what better thing to do then to put it to use and plan a girl party? Which brings me to last Saturday’s event, the “Pimp Your Cupcake Party.”
The idea behind the party is simple; bake a bunch of cupcake stumps…whip up different frosting flavors and buy a handful of delicious topping choices. The rest is up to your guests! Here are the recipes I used for our Pimp party.
Stump Flavors
Chocolate Cupcakes
Makes 18 to 24
- 3/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
- 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
- 1 1/2 cups sugar
- 1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
- 3/4 teaspoon baking powder
- 3/4 teaspoon salt
- 2 large eggs
- 3/4 cup warm water
- 3/4 cup buttermilk
- 3 tablespoons safflower oil
- 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line standard muffin tins with paper liners; set aside. Sift together cocoa powder, flour, sugar, baking soda, baking powder, and salt into a large bowl. Add eggs, warm water, buttermilk, oil, and vanilla, and mix until smooth, about 3 minutes. Scrape down the sides and bottom of bowl to assure batter is well mixed.
- Divide batter evenly among muffin cups, filling each 2/3 full. Bake until tops spring back when touched, about 20 minutes, rotating pan once if needed. Transfer to a wire rack; let cool completely.
Red Velvet Cupcakes
Makes 24
- 2 1/2 cups cake flour (not self- rising), sifted
- 2 tablespoons unsweetened Dutch-process cocoa powder
- 1 teaspoon salt
- 1 1/2 cups sugar
- 1 1/2 cups vegetable oil
- 2 large eggs, room temperature
- 1/2 teaspoon red gel-paste food color
- 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
- 1 cup buttermilk
- 1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
- 2 teaspoons distilled white vinegar
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line standard muffin tins with paper liners. Whisk together cake flour, cocoa, and salt.
- With an electric mixer on medium-high speed, whisk together sugar and oil until combined. Add eggs, one at a time, beating until each is incorporated, scraping down sides of bowl as needed. Mix in food color and vanilla.
- Reduce speed to low. Add flour mixture in three batches, alternating with two additions of buttermilk, and whisking well after each. Stir together the baking soda and vinegar in a small bowl (it will foam); add mixture to the batter, and mix on medium speed 10 seconds.
- Divide batter evenly among lined cups, filling each three-quarters full. Bake, rotating tins halfway through, until a cake tester inserted in centers comes out clean, about 20 minutes. Transfer tins to wire racks to cool completely before removing cupcakes. Cupcakes can be stored overnight at room temperature, or frozen up to 2 months, in airtight containers.
- To finish, use a small offset spatula to spread cupcakes with frosting. Refrigerate up to 3 days in airtight containers; bring to room temperature before serving.
Vanilla Cupcakes
- 1 1/2 cups self-rising flour
- 1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
- 2 cups sugar
- 4 large eggs, at room temperature
- 1 cup milk
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
Line 2 (1/2 cup-12 capacity) muffin tins with cupcake papers.
In a small bowl, combine the flours. Set aside.
In a large bowl, on the medium speed of an electric mixer, cream the butter until smooth. Add the sugar gradually and beat until fluffy, about 3 minutes. Add the eggs, 1 at a time, beating well after each addition. Add the dry ingredients in 3 parts, alternating with the milk and vanilla. With each addition, beat until the ingredients are incorporated but do not over beat. Using a rubber spatula, scrape down the batter in the bowl to make sure the ingredients are well blended. Carefully spoon the batter into the cupcake liners, filling them about 3/4 full. Bake for 20 to 25 minutes, or until a cake tester inserted into the center of the cupcake comes out clean.
Cool the cupcakes in tins for 15 minutes. Remove from the tins and cool completely on a wire rack before icing.
Vegan Chocolate Cupcakes
- 1 cup soy milk
- 1 teaspoon apple cider vinegar
- 3/4 cup granulated sugar
- 1/3 cup canola oil
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1/2 teaspoon almond extract, chocolate extract, or more vanilla extract
- 1 cup all-purpose flour
- 1/3 cup cocoa powder, Dutch-processed or regular
- 3/4 teaspoon baking soda
- 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/4 teaspoon salt
- Preheat oven to 350°F and line a muffin pan with paper or foil liners.
- Whisk together the soy milk and vinegar in a large bowl, and set aside for a few minutes to curdle. Add the sugar, oil, vanilla extract, and other extract, if using, to the soy milk mixture and beat until foamy. In a separate bowl, sift together the flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, baking powder, and salt. Add in two batches to wet ingredients and beat until no large lumps remain (a few tiny lumps are OK).
- Pour into liners, filling 3/4 of the way. Bake 18 to 20 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Transfer to a cooling rack and let cool completely.
Frosting Flavors
Now here is the thing about frosting, frosting is basically a whole lot of butter and powdered sugar as the base. After that you add a little cream and vanilla. Once you have the base you are free to mix in whatever ingredients you want to make it delicious. If you want strawberry you add a few strawberries, if you love to get drunk then use Bailey’s instead of cream…trust me, it’s delicious! For all these recipes you mainly just beat all the ingredients together (gradually adding the powdered sugar in) and viola it’s that simple!
Chocolate
- 1 Stick Butter, softened
- 1/2 C. Unsweetened Cocoa Powder or 8oz. of bittersweet chocolate (my preference)
- 4 C. Confectioner’s Sugar
- 1/4 C. Milk (plus a few Tablespoons to adjust consistency)
- 1 t. Vanilla
Buttercream
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
- 6 to 8 cups confectioners’ sugar
- 1/2 cup milk
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
Strawberry
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
- 6 to 8 cups confectioners’ sugar
- 1/2 cup milk
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
- 4 large strawberries blended into mix
Maple
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
- 6 to 8 cups confectioners’ sugar
- 1/2 cup milk
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
- 1/4 cup of maple syrup
Vegan Vanilla
- 3 c unbleached organic sugar
- 1/2 c Earth Balance margarine, softened (80% fat is best)
- 1/4 c soy milk
- 1 1/2 t vanilla
Topping Ideas
- Chocolate chips
- Reese’s pieces
- marshmallows
- M&M’s
- food coloring
- jimmies
- sprinkles
- red hots
- gummy bears















